spiritual coaching how to let go ascension

“Let go,” they say. 

Everyone says it. If you want to be whole, if you want to be free, if you want to be healed, let go. 

Easier said than done, don’t you think? 

The other day, someone posted this question on Facebook: “How do you let go?”

I was in the middle of something else and didn’t comment. When I got back to Facebook the post was gone, but it’s a question I think all of us have faced at one time or another. Most of us face it time after time after time, because there are so many levels to letting go. 

Personally, I recently hit another of those levels. I’m being guided to let go of everything and everyone: parents, children, ex, past lovers, potential lovers, people who have annoyed me, people I have annoyed, expectations, outcomes.

Not easy. Not easy at all. In fact there were a few in there that had me at a loss. 

“How do I let go of THIS?”  I asked my guides. 

And by grace, I was given a solution. 

“Be grateful,” they said. 

They explained that attachments of any kind—whether it’s to people we love or people we’d rather not have to deal with—ultimately come from fear of loss. Either fear that something of ours will be taken away, or fear that we are somehow not whole without that person or situation. 

In truth, all people and situations that come into our lives do so to help us learn, grow, and come back into ourselves. 

Simply presencing each one with deep gratitude for the gifts and lessons they have brought helps to heal the belief in separation behind the attachment—whether it be perceived as love or as animosity—so that one can truly let go, heal, and be free. 

Is it easy? No. But once they explained that letting go is not the same as abandonment, it became much easier. 

I understand now that when I acknowledge and thank a person for his or her gifts and lessons, and release them to Spirit, if they have no more gifts and lessons to bring, they will drop away and it will be painless. And if they do have more to bring, maintaining a spirit of gratitude makes everything go smoother. 

Also, they tell me that true soul mates bring limitless gifts, and open the door to unlimited gratitude, love, and abundance. 

Blessings and deep peace, 

Christie